How I View Relationships After My Divorce
After my divorce, I view relationships differently. What was once acceptable is not something I can tolerate after understanding myself and my boundaries better as part of my own transformational journey.
Here is how I view relationships with myself, with friends and family, and with a partner – and what’s changed.
The relationship with yourself
Creating new habits after my divorce became part of my routine. I now always ask myself:
What do I want?
What is my routine?
What brings me joy?
What lifts me up?
What do I want to listen to?
Is this something that’s draining my energy or recharging me?
From moving my body more and journaling to attending events and networking, I have become more comfortable and happy in my own company.
The relationship with friends
Examining your relationships with others periodically can help you save time, energy and resources. These are some of the questions to ask yourself:
Are we just killing time together?
Is it based on a codependency?
Do they drain my energy or uplift me?
Are they working on themselves?
It’s OK to have your circle small. My circle of trusted friends is certainly getting smaller every year, but I now have many connections that I can turn to for soulful conversations and unconditional support.
The relationship with family
There’s blood family and soul family. As I strengthen my relationship with myself, I now ask myself more questions about my family:
Do they support me?
Do they judge me?
Do they respect or disrespect me?
Do they understand me?
Just because you’re blood family, it doesn’t mean that you’re here to evolve together. But sometimes it’s your own family that neglects, ignores and belittles you and you’re not required to put up with it, especially when there are many people on Earth that are looking to support and uplift you!
The relationship with a partner
When you’re ready for your next partnership in life after your divorce, it’s important to think about your growth and what your priorities are today:
What are your non-negotiables?
What do you want to accomplish together?
What similarities or differences are you finding between your new partner and old partner?
Who do you want to be in this partnership?
You know yourself best when it comes to the energy that you invest in all of your connections. Do not settle for less than you deserve – if the relationship with your life partner does not bring you joy and love, it’s probably not aligned with your soul. Give yourself permission to ask for more and to accept more!