8 Concerns You Might Have Before Getting a Divorce

Getting a divorce is a big decision! A life-changing decision that requires a lot of courage and honesty.

In this video, I talk about 8 of the most common thoughts and concerns that you might experience when you're ready to have the conversation.

1."What would people think?"

My first concern was around how people are going to react and how will they view me after the divorce. But people are only judging others for an issue they have deep within themselves – whether it’s a limiting belief, trauma or conditioning.

2. "How would my partner react?"

My second concern was about my partner. I was worried that he might get upset, but he took the news quite calmly. The next day I discovered that he had taken down all of the photos of us together. The room was filled with empty picture frames.  This was his way of handling his emotions, but in reality we never know how people are going to react to life-changing news or circumstances.

3. "How can I prepare for my partner's reaction?"

My ex-husband’s energy was always in motion and so I had to prepare myself before speaking to him about wanting to get a divorce. As an empath, I knew that he’d have an emotional reaction and that I would feel it too, but I knew deep in my heart that I had to have the conversation.

4. "What am I going to do next?

After I told my ex-husband that I wanted a divorce, I had no idea where I was going to live. At the time, I reminded myself to take things one step at a time and to trust myself unconditionally.

5. "How to have the conversation?"

Tough conversations are not always easy to initiate. We first talked about getting a divorce as a joke few years before we actually did it.

Tough conversations can be awkward, especially when you need to be vulnerable, which is why humour might help you get to the point, but ultimately it’s important to have an open and honest conversation about a topic as difficult as divorce if you’re certain that the chapter between the two of you is reaching its end.

6. "What if this is a mistake?"

After the initial emotional rollercoaster, things calmed down and my ex-husband was supportive as I was preparing to leave our shared home. His reaction took me by surprise and I started to wonder if getting a divorce was a mistake. But just because you can be amicable with your ex-partner doesn’t mean that you should stay in a marriage with them, especially if you have been emotionally suffering or lacking for a long time.

7. "Who am I going to spend the holidays with?"

One of my concerns that kept showing up was the idea of spending the holidays alone, but the truth is… the most important relationship is the one with yourself. I haven’t always appreciated myself the way I should have, but this concern actually gave me an opportunity to start new traditions and view life from a different perspective.

8. "What if I ignore the red flags?"

You might be tempted to stay in the marriage by ignoring the red flags a little bit longer. But things will only get more unbearable for you – emotionally and mentally speaking, even physically speaking too. It’s essential that you listen to your intuition and honor your needs, even if they are leading you in a different direction that initially anticipated. You’re stronger than you can imagine and you have much more to experience on Earth! The end of a life chapter is not the end of your life, but rather the beginning of the next life chapter.